Hello + welcome to this tiny space on the internet! I created this blog (+ changed the name twice since) 14 years ago as a creative outlet from my career in the emergency room as a PA. After spending the past 7 (or so) years on social media outlets, I have decided to delete all of the ones associated with this blog and get back to the heart of blogging.
These 5 healthy ways to use social media can be incorporated easily into your every day routine. After having many chats with all of you over the past few months about the toxicity of social media, I figured that putting together a few tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship with it was key. For me, it can be really difficult since my business is on social media. It makes it challenging to spend less time on it when your job depends on it.
Last night after posting about a family in need I realized that I could never desert my account (although on some days, I would love to), because so much good comes from it. This community helps each other when in need and the families we have served in the years I’ve had my IG account will never cease to amaze me. You are all incredible. For that reason alone, I won’t go anywhere. However, I will have very strict boundaries and limits to my social media use and that’s why I wanted to write this post. I hope that it is helpful for YOU, too!
One of the most important things I have learned over the years is to set boundaries. This is especially important if you run your business on social media. Some of my boundaries that I have set for my community is telling you all where you can reach me. I have shut off my DM’s in my stories so you have to go directly to my profile to DM me or you can email me. This boundary has helped me to cut down significantly on the messages that were just stating “I like that” or “I don’t like that” and makes room for me to see questions that may come through. It has saved a significant amount of time that I can now dedicate elsewhere. Another boundary that I have set up and love is to address the person you are messaging or emailing. So often I will open up a message and it will say “Where is the link?” or “Why are you doing that?” You would never go up to someone in public and say something without addressing them first, so I expect the same respect here in the social media space. “Hi Lynzy! Thanks so much for your stories this AM. I have a question…..”
You can set time limits for certain apps within your settings. I really love this idea because we all know how easily you can get distracted in an app and then POOF! an hour has gone by! I love that this is just a quick reminder to get off the app and enjoy life!
In January I moved my IG app into a hidden folder on the 4th screen. I have to swipe four times, then open a hidden folder to find the Instagram app. By the time I got to it I had enough time to realize that maybe I didn’t even need to go on it in the first place. During the first week of my month off Instagram I found myself having a minute or two to myself and reaching for my phone to “answer a few quick messages” or “check my mail”. I had to fill all the empty spaces of my life with something else. I didn’t know how to just sit in the peace and quiet and THINK. Has that ever happened to you? Where you find that quick moment where you have nothing going on and reach for your phone to fill that quietness? By the 4th week away from Instagram, I began to really ENJOY those peaceful moments.
At the end of December I unfollowed a ton of accounts that made me feel like I wasn’t “keeping up” or made me feel like “I need more”. Someone you followed a year ago may have been really healthy for you then but perhaps you are in a different place now and that no longer works for you. I encourage you to go through every single person that you follow and ask yourself “How does this account serve me?” Does that person make you feel confident? Do they give you helpful tips? Do they provide you with information that you want to know more about? If the answer is yes, that’s amazing! Keep them. If not, unfollow them until you are in a place where you can mentally handle that account and what they provide.
This one is HUGE. When is the last time you took a week or a month off from social media? I thought all I ever needed was a good week away to feel like I was in a good spot. Turns out that secret number was actually ONE MONTH. I found that the first 1-2 weeks I really missed the app but by the 4th week I realized that I didn’t need it at all. It’s a really amazing feeling and I highly recommend trying it if you haven’t before! It helps you to reset and start brand fresh!